I guess I am just an old codger, or getting there. If you are a young'in of the Millennial variety, you may want to skip this article. (That's a trigger warning in case you missed it.) After some interesting exchanges on Twitter, I thought I would flesh out a little more clearly what I see as the biggest hurdle preventing The West from a return to true masculinity and patiarchy.
Now... I am not casting the first stone. I can't. I'm as guilty as the next man, especially in the 21st century. What I am doing though is issuing a warning. A warning neither Red Pill men nor feminists want to hear on either side of the culture war that is raging right now and... in hilarious irony... actually unites them and puts them on the same team.
Millennial men love to point the finger of blame at Boomers, GenX and feminism (even the greatest generation I am shocked to learn) for the state of Western society they are now 'forced' to navigate through.
Ok... message received.
Riddle me this young whipper snapper...
The Boomers did not invent hook-up culture. They had "free love"... and then promptly got married and set about bringing you into existence. More than just a couple of you as you are the next largest (and possibly larger) generation after the Boomers themselves. Some of you might retort that hook-up culture is a myth. Even if I will grant you this possibility... there is still no equivalent to "hook-up" in its cultural context to compare to your "free love" parents. Yes, your parents had sex before marriage... literally, cause they got married soon after. And you?
Gen X did not come up with the idea of a "fuck-buddy". We just wanted to not be judged for having sex with someone we loved and cared about BEFORE we got married. Did you miss it? We also intended to get married and start a family, that's why we were fucking. We just saw no point in 'waiting' if that was the goal both sexes were striving for in the first place. Again you might say "Hey... it's the culture we are left with by you fuckers." Ok... how many GenX'ers do you find on TINDER? How many X'ers do you find writing articles on how to optimize your chances for getting a swipe and thus a quick fuck? Maybe you are not having sex on TINDER like the horny minority of your cohorts... but you ARE on TINDER and you ARE now lamenting how LAME it has become.
Dear Millennial... if you don't like the culture you are living in... look in the mirror.
More and more I am no longer asking the question why I write, but instead a more existential one - why do I KEEP writing? Writing for an audience that it is becoming increasingly clear will never want to hear the message I have to convey.
I have come to realize that this blog might never gain that much popularity with my target demographic. The reason? I view life from a moral perspective, through a moral lens, and ask moral questions.
I'm a Gen X'er. What can I say? It's how I was raised. That said, I am seriously beginning to realize that a lot of Millennial men, in adopting Red Pill and Game philosophy for their life, might not be as firm or convinced as I am that approaching life from a moral perspective is even valid anymore.
What Einstein has to say in that simple quote about morality is precisely the sticking point I have, as a Gen X'er, and many older men have about the moral views of young people today. Our (i.e. us old guys) view that leading a moral life, of living rightly, virtuously, justly, truthfully, is the best life.
But if you (i.e. a Millennial) have never lived in that world.
If a moral world does not exist for you because you were not raised in one.
How do you even begin to talk to a young man about the importance of striving to live a moral life, let alone a sexually moral one?
Feminism, Game and Red Pill philosophy has shattered the matrix that is the western, romantic, Judeo-Christian view of women being all loyal, polite, kind, caring, honest, selfless, family-focused and, most importantly, not all that interested in sex.
And there is no going back.
The truth of female nature for any one who has swallowed the Red Pill and learned Game is simple to state and can be summarized thusly:
Women love sex!!!
The vast majority of them, especially the good looking ones.
On campuses around The West, there is now an active push by women to fuck around and never even attempt to get into a committed relationship.
So what's a young, 20 something college guy to do? Seriously... I am not making light of the situation or being naive here.
Being Mr. Nice guy is clearly not going to get a girl today. In the more reserved and patriarchal past, you at least had a chance of finding a nice girl. Opposites attract, but we usually drift toward commonality and likeness 9 time out of 10. Since most people were nice back in the 50s, there were a lot more nice men and women to meet and make a go at love and family. That... is simply no longer the case in The West. Nice... is a four letter word now, for both sexes.
Add to this the renewed vigor of a rising, vocal and increasingly activist atheist movement globally that many young men are increasingly attracted to, it all adds up to only one possible conclusion.
Morality is not just obsolete now in The West.
Morality is dead.
Especially for the Millennial generation. Morality is not even a concept. It just simply does not exist in their world view.
When you look at the history of morality, you cannot separate it from religion and contemplation of God and a greater purpose/reason for Man's existence.
If God is dead... so too is morality.
Naturally... and I am deliberately dumbing down and simplifying Red Pill and Game philosophy so I ask for a little indulgence... this leads young men to believe and declare...
"FUCK IT! YOLO dude.
No more Mr. Nice anything.
I am THROUGH playing this morality game and letting anyone, let alone a God, tell me what I can or cannot do with my dick."
Yet ironically... these same young men are increasingly angry, frustrated and downright disgusted by the sluts and whores they encounter in their lives.
And it is not just the men... the women are also angry and frustrated as The Atlantic learned in it's article Boy's On The Side.
The porn pic being passed around on the students’ cellphones at an Ivy League business-school party last fall was more prank than smut: a woman in a wool pom-pom hat giving a snowman with a snow penis a blow job.
Snowblowing, it’s called, or snowman fellatio, terms everyone at this midweek happy hour seemed to know (except me). The men at the party flashed the snapshot at the women, and the women barely bothered to roll their eyes.
These were not women’s-studies types, for sure; they were already several years out of college and proud veterans of the much maligned hookup culture that, over the past 15 years or so, has largely replaced dating on college campuses and beyond.
One of the women had already seen the photo five times before her boyfriend showed it to her, so she just moved her pitcher of beer in front of his phone and kept on talking.
He’d already suggested twice that night that they go to a strip club, and when their mutual friend asked if the two of them were getting married, he gave the friend the finger and made sure his girlfriend could see it, so she wouldn’t get any ideas about a forthcoming ring.
She remained unfazed. She was used to his “juvenile thing,” she told me.
Hanna Rosin - Boys On The Side - The Atlantic
Again, for a Gen X'er and any Boomer watching young people act out their lives publically all over social media, this split mind, the schizophrenic life philosophies that one can so clearly see as incompatible in the practice of living life, is completely incomprehensible.
Of course, to a Millennial, I would suspect the reply would be "Yea... well... your just old and clearly don't know anything despite the years you have lived." I am not making this up. Over the past four years of my life, I have worked closely with a number of Millennials and this pretty much sums up their life philosophy when it comes to thinking about how us old-schoolers believe life should be lived.
The Christian morals of the 20th century are obsolete, dead. Your so-called moral values did nothing to prevent the shit world we now live in. Therefore, I am making up my own rules and the morality of them or not is none of your damn business.
So screameth a Millennial
On the one hand, both Millennial men and women are frustrated and actually HATE the current state of affairs between the genders.
Yet immediately on the flip side, none of them EVER want to go back to the traditional ways, to the ways of their parents and grandparents.
When I ask myself to dig deep into the psyche of a Millennial, to really try to understand what they mean by "traditional ways of their grandparents"... all I can really come up with is...
A moral way of life.
A way of life that says this is right, that is wrong.
Keep your dick in your pants. Save sex for marriage and commitment to one another.
Your grandmother will agree with this https://t.co/fdNZojjzYR— Wallace W. (@billwall86) November 17, 2017
I rest my case.
I just finished watching Eyes Wide Shut by Kubrick again for the 2nd time.
One of the most intense and real moments in the film is dialogue between Tom and Nicole about the nature of women and sex.
Kubrick... gave us the most succinct, direct, intense and visceral lesson on the delusional naivety of Blue Pill thinking about women you will ever find on film.
It is an absolute shock to watch and I realize now why so many people who went to see Eyes Wide Shut came out of the theatre shrugging their shoulders and saying "What the hell was that all about?" They shrugged their shoulders BECAUSE it was an AMORAL film being played before a MORAL audience. I was all of 24 going on 25. Gays were simply "human beings deserving of respect to live their lives", not moral paragons and models for children that they are today. What westerners saw in EWS was a way of life - an amoral life - that was so completely alien to them, yet uncomfortably familiar (in its theme that the elites live differently than the masses), that no one could leave that theatre with a neutral view of the film. It raised a lot of questions. Questions The West is only now beginning to understand to be realities here-to-fore of a secret society and secret way of life... for SOME people.
Kubrick, as usual, was ahead of the times. This film's release in 1999 was just prior to the start of what would soon become known as pick-up-artist (PUA) techniques and the men that get together to practice getting better at getting laid - now known comprehensively as Game. As Kubrick's wife explains on the bluray extras, what Nicole does in that scene is proceed to burst Tom's love bubble. I.e. That women are all about security, loyalty, "love" and that sex - carnal, animal, anonymous - is simply not a part of the female's nature and make-up. What is also interesting is that for the rest of the film, it is Tom's character, THE MALE, that is trying to process this new view of women/sex. To try to find a way for himself to engage in it. To taste carnal, animal and primal raw sex. Just like his wife so intensely described to him.
No surprise, as a fully Blue Pill male who had the Red Pill FORCE FED on him, he has a hard time.
A hard time I suspect because, as many men who swallow the Red Pill for the first time and open their eyes, he just cannot believe how sexual the world of the feminine is.
Which brings us back to the main topic - morality and is it necessary in a Man's sexual life today.
Eyes Wide Shut is, ultimately, a moral story.
Not a story with a moral message.
A story that says MORALITY is the message.
You either have a MORAL society... or you have...
Like Marshal McLuhan's famous "the medium is the message", Kubirk is saying Man's purpose IS to wake up and lead a moral life. Especially once his eyes are opened to living without morality, the perils of which are made clear in the film. The real contrast and energy in the film is toward the end when Tom's character does what? He tries to do the right - i.e. moral - thing and is 'educated' it is in his best interests (his life) to simply stop and walk away. Walk away because... he is dealing with a kind of people who are 100% amoral and who would not blink an eye to kill him, and his whole family, to protect their secret society. Morality as theme explains why there is a Christmas tree in almost all the scenes where Tom Cruise is taking steps toward sin - the tree being a reminder of Christian moral truth and rules - that the core of human morality revolves around our attitude and actions toward sex and sexual relationships.
What I read over and over again on Red Pill and Game blogs is that our culture is fucked up. Women are amoral sluts and they are programmed to be that way by biology. Thus, young men need to change their tactics to get laid in accordance with what women want NOW and what they ACTUALLY RESPOND TO as sexual creatures.
And what women want now is... the r-selected, adventure sex, dark triad, FUCK ME HARD alpha male.
You k-selected, beta-boy, nice-guy, pro-civilization (i.e. provider) types?
You are NEVER getting laid in the 21st century if you even hint at coming across as wanting a relationship and being Mr. Provider who wants to fall in love. At least not by any woman who is not solely out to cage you in marriage after riding the cock-carousel.
And this is precisely the dynamic we see being played out in the Millennial generation now. Round and round they go, never once stopping to consider THEY are the ones CHOOSING this ride that is making them sick. The quote from Boys On The Side above illustrates this context perfectly. So too does the above video, which I found when I googled carousel to spell it right.
Young men are now 100% ignorant to a female's EQUAL DESIRE for a mature man who is a solid relationship/provider match (i.e. k-selected).
The girls are 100% ok and in love with being the r-selected, one-night-stand, fuck-buddy-quasi-relationship-with-no-attachment slut... but its NOT what they want in an actual long term partner... you know... for babies and shit. What grownups do when they stop being children. Millennial men and woman have been completely infantalized by feminism and the Red Pill respectively to adopt a wholly amoral view of sexual relations between them that is completely dysfunctional. They are in a permanent state of childhood because... they refuse to grow up and be responsible for a future generation (i.e. have children) which would be "what my grandparents and parents did." YOLO... screw that traditional shit.
One of the reasons I started this blog was to write from a moral perspective about men and women and sexual relationships because I believe an argument can be made directly to the health of a society and its moral ground rules.
Living a moral life is what creates the space for a civilized society to emerge and prosper.
I don't think I need to convince anyone reading this that it was Man, patriarchy, that created the moral space for civilization to emerge from the pagan swamps.
Truth and justice did NOT come from the goddess.
But if you are a man who practices Game and lives out Red Pill philosophy without a moral context, you are, inevitably, inviting man to slip back into the amoral abyss of the goddess and the chaos that was pagan life. In the 21st century feminst West, if you are pro-civilization - laws, rules, justice, tall buildings, running water, provider guy, etc. etc. - you don't get laid.
Or at least that is the theory many young Red Pill men have swallowed to believe is the case - "the way things are" - today. If that is the case, where does adventure sex guy lead humanity to?
I humbly suggest adventure sex guy leads us back to grass huts and the amorality of pagan goddess worship.
Bravotv.com: Why did you choose the movie Eyes Wide Shut as your theme?
Leah Forester: I’m a free spirit and I love to bring that out in others. The film Eyes Wide Shut is an intelligent and provocative look at marriage — and that’s something I can relate to. I love playing dress up — I’m a stylist! — And am definitely a boundary-pusher by nature. What better occasion to celebrate that than my 40th birthday? At this point in my life I’ve never felt more free or celebratory. My parties are known for being strange and beautiful combinations of artistic expression. So why not have fun with some shock value? All my married adult friends are hungry for daring excitement and they know they can depend on me to provide that in a harmless, fun way.
But, that is just my opinion, take it for what it's worth. My evidence as proof is the current amoral state of western society. We are now a goddess matriarchy of amoral agents living a life of "do as thou wilt shall be the whole of the law."
YOLO... is the Millennial version of boomer "free love."
Thelema made manifest in their culture, for their time.
Without being too presumptuous, I think I can safely say that western civilization as we know it began with the rise of Christianity - the rise of morality, specifically sexual morality, as the ruling criteria that guides Man.
This book set out to numerically quantify how Christianity's rise took over the whole of the Roman world. Drawing on historical data and statistical analysis, this book confirms what the historians have to date only been able to theorize.
- began and increased in the city (urban) environment, not the rural country side
- that it was adopted by elites first, not the common masses
- that it spread primarily and fastet in large cities that accepted new ideas and divergent ways of living (i.e. non-traditional - meaning not pagan at the time)
- and, most importantly, that it offered a more INTELLIGENT and RATIONAL alternative to pagan models of morality and living
In short... Christianity offered men and women a better way to live their lives.
Constantine's adoption of Christianity was, according to this author, only a matter of time. Rome did not make Roman's Christian, Christ did. And for those first converts, conversion was primarily a matter of faith. A matter of faith that confirmed prior historical and traditional intellectual (i.e. moral) ideas (think the stoics) of how to live one's life, and then radically improved on those earlier pagan ideals in distinctly un-traditional ways.
What was the "radical" un-traditional way of living life to a pagan Man of ancient Rome?
Keeping your dick in your pants.
In fact... some guy wrote a whole book on it that kinda had a little impact on western civilization's mores and values for the next 1500 plus years.
The proof of this theory was Emperor Julian's failed attempt to restore pagan religion as the religion of the state. It was pagan aggression toward and oppression of Christianity that was the ultimate cause of its undoing, not Christianity being forced on the people from the top down. This book makes the case pretty clear. Romans, from the masses to the elites, were looking for a better way to live after Rome collapsed. They found that path, that new way forward, in Christian living and in Christian morality.
When an idea's time has come, there is no stopping it.
What came in the wake of Christianity was an increased sense of, and direction toward, making living a moral life the central aim of Man, and thus the whole aim of society.
If you want to go back to goddess worship, living in grass huts and fucking like animals, then by all means... be adventure sex guy. If you have done even the most superficial research on sexuality in ancient Greece and Rome, it was barely, barely, a notch above open animal instinct in the emerging patriarchal world. This is simply stating a stark fact of reality. A civilization without sexual morality is a civilization of chaos and anarchy, which is precisely the state The West finds itself in today.
A very Buddhist argument for those who are averse or disinclined to hear a Christian / God moral argument on the consequences of rampant, impersonal and casual sexual relations on a community and society as a whole.
Which brings me around to the thesis of this post - that Millennial men swallowing the Red Pill and living a life of Game are declaring morality to be obsolete, dead.
"Just keep from injecting religious/athiest things in such matters"
This was a comment I found on a dedicated Game blog. The context of the comment was clear - in discussing Game, we must keep religious/moral matters out of the discussion. Which quite succinctly proves my thesis - any talk of morals and morality between the genders - the right MORAL way to live and love - is not wanted by the Millennial generation and is most viscerally rejected by Red Pilled men of that generation.
Morality... at it's core... is about what is right and wrong.
But, we are not supposed to talk about the morality of Game.
To discuss a moral way to live one's life with the opposite sex that is optimal for not just one's own happiness, but the whole of society, for civilization is 'divisive' and 'counter productive.' One can discuss Game from a morally neutral point of view, to leave questions of God and Soul and Purpose out of the discussion. And for the purposes of getting laid, it is almost mandatory that one does so because if you allow those kinds of questions into your mind for even a second while laying down Game on a girl, it fucks up the whole vibe.
Christianity is a quest for meaning. RP foundations are truth. How you apply it is up to you.— Rollo Tomassi (@RationalMale) November 17, 2017
A quest for meaning... or a quest for morality? Is it not one and the same? Morality gives meaning to life. Without it... it's just spinning plates.
But I am curious...
Man... capital M.
Has he 'progressed' to the point where he can exist now without asking himself the most fundamental and basic questions about his existence?
What is right and wrong about how to live one's life, especially the core and powerful force of sexual relations with women that in many ways are Man's central pivot point and defining characteristic?
If so... I ask you this...
What kind of society do we get where no moral questions, what is right and wrong, are asked?
More importantly and to the point... who benefits from an amoral society where right and wrong are cast into the dustbin of history as outdated and irrelevant?
Can you say feminine imperative? I knew you could.
What is the nirvana state of bliss for feminine imperative's triumph in society?
That a woman should never be judged (i.e. morally) and there is no truth on the right (i.e. moral) way to live.
What does Rollo say should never be discussed about the Red Pill?
Is Rollo's Red Pill philosophy enabling the triumph of the feminine imperative by NOT asking moral questions about sex and gender relations?
Ooooops... did I just ask an uncomfortable and awkward question?
Let's just pretend that did not happen?
Eyes Wide Shut indeed.
Can you say feminine imperative? Son of a...
Now "a new way forward."
What are we really talking about here?
We are talking about HOW we SHOULD live, about morality.
And very possibly a return to a more spiritual/religious creed by which both men and women will soon adopt as moral rules and guides to live their lives.
I truly believe THIS is what the sphere is currently engaged in, at the deeper level.
A return to moral truth in Man IS #upstreamTwitter in the Red Pill sphere.
This new moral searching is causing a shit storm and rightly so for some veterans of the Red Pill life philosophy. It should be obvious to these men WHY an amoral, no-meaning-to-life-but-what-you-make-it philosophy is so very quickly reaching its expiry date with the vast majority of men.
Some men... are beginning to figure out that spinning plates is accelerating the destruction of The West. After slaying pussy all they can, some men are asking a question of meaning... of purpose to it all and wondering where is it in the Red Pill.
There is no meaning, no joy, in the Red Pill because the Red Pill, at it's core, is amoral.
There is no meaning to life... without morality. This is the reason Rollo won't discuss meaning and attacks anyone who says the Red Pill should have a prescription for meaning. The second you begin to go down this road... spinning plates is seen for what it is... a shitty way to live your life that brings not just no meaning, but its polar opposite - depression, apathy and disillusion. Unless of course all you care about is getting your dick in some pussy. In that case... party on dudes!
Morality, as Socrates said, can't be the feminine imperative of "feels", but something true and real.
That meaning young men are searching for on #upstreamTwitter...
JBP believes that marriage is the cure for all social ills today. Never have I seen or heard him acknowledge the inherent dangers it poses to men's lives. He believes men and women win or lose together which is provably untrue. If anything he's a man up and marry those sluts guy.— Rollo Tomassi (@RationalMale) November 17, 2017
That morality young men are beginning to inquire into and find in the voice of Jordan Peterson...
...is going to look a LOT like the old morality of their grandparents generation Millennials have been shitting on their entire lives, while also simultaneously looking back fondly on as when things were good and normal.
Either there is a right way to live, or "many ways" that are all "equally valid and true."
This current state of chaos and uncertainty in Western Man is his search for a return to moral meaning.
Hmmm... shades of Jordan Peterson you say. Hmmm... oddly inline with his theory of commitment and monogamy in marriage as the most stable way for Man to find meaning in his life. Hmmm... Rollo Tommassi shits on commitment and marriage and encourages young men to build a harem of sexual conquests, never settling, while he himself IS married and committed and has been for a long time to just one woman. Hmmm... why does Rollo never want to talk about his marriage and what it means to him? Hmmm... why is the question of meaning in the Red Pill a non-question for him? Hmmm...
Because that is what this angst, this schism, this... stirring of the nice pot that was once Red Pill absolute 'truth' is all about. Something is missing... and because that something is divinely and innately inherent to the being of Man, it will always be there. Itching him. Bugging him. Poking and prodding him to open his eyes and wake up to the truth.
Eyes... wide shut... is the biggest generational challenge facing Millienals.
Will they truly wake up before it is too late for The West?
Will young men today actually begin to respect and learn from the past traditions and practices that for generations in their family history created the social and personal conditions that allowed them to exist in the first place? To be born?
Only time will tell.
Not looking so good I'm afraid. Ah well... I did try to warn them.
But if you challenge the law... and you think you can change the law... then you are bound to failure.
And in that failure will be a lot of pain.
Because the natural law... has no mercy.
It is only the law.
Strength & Honor